Where natural hair doesn't fit
Wed, Jan 21, 2015   |   Comments(0)
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Angela Easterling
Angela Easterling

Writing this blog is sort of bitter sweet for me. On one hand, I love my natural hair. I love the thickness, the versatility, the curls, the "FUNK" OWWW! LOL! I can literally pose in the mirror for hours. But, on the other hand, I have a few obstacles that have made my natural experience not as awesome as it should be.

It was only 8 months ago when my transition was complete and I celebrated with a Big Chop. Well, for me I big chopped twice, sort of a pre big chop then a final. My hair, for most of my life, has been pretty typical. I've always worn it straight or pulled back into a pony tail. During my early 20's I cut and wore it short, but it was still a pretty basic style.

After watching Chris Rock's, "Good Hair", documentary, I decided to take better care of mine. I began stretching my relaxers 2 once every 4-6 months. I joined a few forums and began my Healthy Hair Journey. This lasted about 1.5years.

About 2 months before I decided to go natural, I must've had some sort of mid-life hair crisis because I decided I wanted to be blonde and bleached the front of my hair. I also wanted to shave my head, which I later decided against. At this time, even following the healthy journey, my hair was in pretty bad shape, so I decided to go natural.

I transitioned about 1year. I cut 6 inches about 6months after my last relaxer. I did my final chop 6months after that. Thus, I began my Natural Hair Journey.

Since my final Big Chop, I've been faced with bigger challenges:
  • It was short!

    Don't get me wrong, it wasn't as short as I wore it in my early 20's, but it was shorter than I had been used to. I wasn't used to the shrinkage and didn't understand how it could be stretched to my butt but shrink to my ear *EXAGGERATION*.
  • It was a change!

    We all know, CHANGE ISN'T EASY.
  • It draws too much attention!

    People can just go on forever about my hair. Some of the attention was even negative. I had a co-worker ask me if this is why our men liked their women, because they can't run their fingers through our hair. Ahem, yeah I never liked a lot of attention and my "WILD" hair just screams it.
  • I no longer fit in!

    This has been the hardest for me to overcome. I felt/feel out of place almost everywhere I go when I have my natural hair down. I think it's the attention that I receive. I don't feel as attractive and almost unkempt. The more I wear my hair, the more comfortable I've become. But I haven't been able to feel completely comfortable at work yet. This will come with time I'm sure.

I am pushing forward to the day that I'm completely comfortable with who I am whether others accept me or not. This journey for me has become more than just a physical one. It is one where I, along with my natural hair, belong.


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